With the busyness of everyday living, many women find themselves juggling between jobs/career, money, housework, relationships and children.
The most common struggle amongst these women is the ability to fit all that they want to do in the limited time that they have.
Hence, the million dollar question is “How can I have more time and balance?”
Being a woman is hard! Every morning, women everywhere ‘put on their cape’, go out into the world and fight the battle of ‘having it all’ and making everything seem perfect and effortless.
For many mums, their responsibilities are 24 hours, 7 days a week. They are simply non-stop!
As I look around me, this is the reality of so many women: they are burning themselves out, feeling frustrated and feeling resentful towards the lives that they are living.
As the result, their relationships struggle, their careers or business gets affected and their health gets compromised. Outside, they might seem like they have it all figured out, but behind closed doors, they ride the emotional roller coaster and suffer in silence. Many live most of their days with worry, guilt, shame, anxiety and depression.
Life doesn’t have to be this way. I have been there and I know how challenging it can be. So here are my 7 simple tips on how to stop ‘juggling’ and start living:
1. Love and accept your imperfect self
It’s about accepting your shortcomings, failures, as well as all your accomplishments and successes.
Realise that every human being (including yourself) has their own flaws, weaknesses and baggage, that make them uniquely beautiful. Learn to be kinder to yourself. Love and appreciate yourself more in the simplest ways possible. Learn to eliminate judgments, guilt or shame you have towards yourself
2. Set boundaries
This is about treating yourself with the respect you deserve.
Whether it’s in personal relationships or at a workplace, make sure you set your own boundaries to know when enough is enough.
You need to set boundaries to protect yourself, your time and your personal values. Do what’s right for you, not how everyone thinks how it’s supposed to be. Never compromise your own values just to make someone else happy because you will be the one ending up miserable.
3. Live your purpose
Make sure that you wake up everyday feeling energised by what you do and inspired to live your dream.
When you feel like you are stuck in your job and wake up every day feeling tired, exhausted or unmotivated, you know it’s time to change.
When you enjoy what you do, you will feel happier and more fulfilled. A great start is to ask yourself what you love and enjoy doing; what would your ideal average day be like? What would you do if money were not an issue?
4. Fill up your own love tank
Stop waiting for others to fill your own love tank. You are 100 percent responsible for your own love and happiness.
Make sure that you set aside some time every week to nurture your mind, body and soul. This is your personal time where you do what you enjoy without any judgments, guilt or resentment. The more you take time to take care of yourself, the more you have to give.
We each have 168 hours a week, so taking a minimum of 2-3 hours out to just recharge should be a no brainer. Go for a walk, meditate, get a massage, chill out on the couch and read some magazines, have your nails or hair done, etc.
5. Face your fears and limitations
An important part of life is for us to face our fears, live our dream and uncover our fullest potential.
Dare to face your fears and limitations. Dare to do something different everyday. Dare to stretch yourself beyond your comfort zone and do things that you might find uncomfortable at first.
If there is something you always wanted to do but haven’t been able to, go do it now!
6. Live more in heart space
Everyday, make sure you take some time out to appreciate and be grateful for your life.
By realising that we live in a world of abundance, we take away the fear and worry of everyday life. Be present in each moment as much as possible, breathe in deeply and enjoy every moment that you are currently alive.
7. Reach out
It is extremely important for you to realise that you are not alone.
By isolating yourself and your problem, you create more pressure and stress on yourself. Taking on board the pressure to figure everything out on your own is just unnecessary.
There are lots of resources out there to help us tackle some of the challenges we may face on our journey such as family, friends, support groups or professional help.
Have you achieved a better work/life balance? Share below how you have managed to achieve this.
Author, Speaker, Transformational Dating & Relationship Coach,
NLP Practitioner and Level 2 Meta Dynamics Consultant
Jane Nguyen empowers strong, independent & powerful women to create the best relationship of their lives. Her clients come from all walks of life, whether it’s about re-inventing themselves after a nasty relationship breakup, wanting to attract a more
conscious and loving man into their lives; or wanting to save their relationship from the brink of break up or divorce. Jane is the ‘go-to girl’ for people who want to experience transformational change in theirrelationships.
Jane comes from a background of a 6-year abusive relationship (both physically & emotionally). After leaving that relationship, Jane devoted many years of her life in the space of personal development to find out the key ingredients to create a successful relationship. Using her signature “Feminine Power”coaching method in her programs, workshops and retreats, Jane teaches women how to tap more into their Feminine essence and shine from the inside out, to attract a man and a relationship that allowsthemto be all thatthey can be.
Jane is an author of the book “Honeymoon Forever” which is available at 40 bookstores Australia wide including Dymocks, Collins, Booktopia etc. She is also a contributing author of 3 other inspiring books that arm people with the skills and knowledge to be the best version of themselves before theywalk into relationships.