How is this even possible that we can compare porn to chick flicks?
For those who are looking to be shocked and educated about an epidemic happening in today’s society or are concerned for their children’s future relationship and marriages wellbeing, I suggest you hang-in there with me and read this article in entirety.

As females we see porn as more of a derogatory thing towards women.

If you asked a guy “Do you think porn is damaging?” some men will also agree it can affect the way they view us women BUT not one man would say that it might be ‘re-wiring the pleasure centre of his brain’. Did you know that?
Now with chick flicks your asking “what’s wrong with some escapist entertainment?”

Well these chick flicks have also be referred to as “emotional porn”.

Women are comparing men to fictional heros and disregarding the qualities that are actually important for a successful relationship.
Women are oblivious that while they are munching on their popcorn and blowing into their tissues that all the animations, movies and ‘chick-lit’ that they are consuming over the years has underlying messages that are ‘re-wiring’ our brains about life, love and romance.
In-turn both porn and chick flicks is distorting marriage, sex, sexuality, commitment, love, security and intimacy within relationships.
Male porn users base their attraction on the physical, become dissatisfied with their sex lives and bring impossible expectations of sex into their relationships.
Women chick flick viewers have their desires more subtly distorted by movies with expectations of what they see on the big screen bringing dissatisfaction when their counterparts can’t live up to this fantasy.
In response to this ‘re-wiring of the pleasure centre of the brain’ here is what commonly is happening today.
Women are oblivious that while they are munching on their popcorn and blowing into their tissues that all the animations, movies and ‘chick-lit’ that they are consuming over the years has underlying messages that are ‘re-wiring’ our brains about life, love and romance.
In-turn both porn and chick flicks is distorting marriage, sex, sexuality, commitment, love, security and intimacy within relationships.
Male porn users base their attraction on the physical, become dissatisfied with their sex lives and bring impossible expectations of sex into their relationships.
Women chick flick viewers have their desires more subtly distorted by movies with expectations of what they see on the big screen bringing dissatisfaction when their counterparts can’t live up to this fantasy.
In response to this ‘re-wiring of the pleasure centre of the brain’ here is what commonly is happening today.
As women we date these men (whether its for one night or not) and are flabbergasted when the below things happen:

  1. He is not saying all the right things
  2. I don’t feel that electric chemistry
  3. He isn’t living up to my checklist
  4. He’s not fulfilling all my dreams and desires
  5. He isn’t flattering me with compliments
  6. He can’t get it up!

Today ED (erectile dysfunction) seems to be a common complaint with guy’s predominately in their 20’s and early 30’s.

Women aren’t happy, as we automatically perceive that this ED has something to do with us. Maybe we aren’t pretty enough or attractive enough?

Actually it’s neither. It has NOTHING to do with us at all.

This actually has to do with a generation of men who have been brought up with high-speed Internet porn and don’t realise that their brains have been re-wired. They don’t know any different. Let me explain more…
Up till the 1970’s causes of Erectile Dysfunction (ED) were 90% psychological and 10% Organic, organic meaning a physical cause. Due to todays modern technology it is now 10% psychological and 90% Organic.
To get an erection the normal chain of messages are sent from; Brain – spinal cord – spinal nerves – penis (to become erect). All nerves are linked in the erection chain.
ED was commonly only seen in elderly men due to ageing and is caused by blocked blood vessels to the penile area. ED for older men stems in the penis area and medical practitioners commonly prescribe Viagra and other ED medicines to assist with this flow.
It was known that ED should be rare if not unheard of in teens and men in there 20’s till now due to the ‘high-speed Internet porn’ availability today!
ED is now common amongst men as young as teenagers and becoming a silent epidemic

Now what I want you to know is that ‘porn’ is like any other drug and you can become an ADDICT.

With anything we do we have a ‘reward circuit’ hardwired into us. The drug chemical ‘dopamine’ turns our reward circuit on which motivates us get the ‘desire’ to do whatever we need to do.
Right at the beginning in the chain of messages sent for an erection ‘dopamine’ triggers this reward circuit.  Sights, sounds and touch send messages to the ‘reward circuit’ and then goes to the hypothalamus ‘erection centre’. It sends dopamine to the penis for an erection.
If you have porn related impotence it means you have ‘re-wired’ this chain of command and it doesn’t work. (Please take note that the first sexual experience a boy has with a women is via porn at an average age of 11 years old).
However what is happening is it rewiring the brain ‘pleasure centre’ in our men and affecting their sex drives towards women (which is why there are complaints about guys not getting it up). The scary thing about all this is they don’t actually know it!
I know your wondering “Is there any hope for these guys?”  Yes there is.
As per Gary Wilson, Anatomy and Physiology teacher and speaker on YouTube ‘The Porn Experiment: TedX’ states:
They need to actively:

  1. Stop all porn viewing now
  2. No porn fantasising
  3. No masturbating
  4. No orgasm
  5. Find replacement activities

Now how long will this take? Depends on how long they have been watching porn, how old they are and the extent to which they watched it. The actual structure of your brain has changed so a 2 month period is not unusual for most mature aged men and for younger more excessive users it can take up to 5 months.
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Now ‘chick flicks’ work in a similar fashion to porn with the wiring of the brain.

Just as porn is a fantasy for men, ‘chick flicks’ is our fantasy as women or “emotional porn”. Both porn and chick flicks set up expectations of the other person within our own pleasure centres in our brain.
Now understand that for girls our first experience with a boy is in fantasy movies, literature and animation cartoons and starts at infancy age.
Our level of attachment is dependant on the frequency of these movies we watch.
It completely determines how strong our attachment is to that fantasy. So when someone says to you that “chick flicks aren’t real”, if you’re a long term viewer your pleasure centre has been wired to believe that they ARE real and you are likely to get severely offended!

They are simply a fantasy. You cannot expect every man you meet to do all the things in the movies.

Say the right things, buy the right things, do the right things as per our (individual) desires and level of fantasy that we have created in our ‘pleasure centre’ of our brain.
Women make men believe that they are victims and that men break their hearts for sport. Women say they want ‘true love’ but all women want is their checklist that she has obtained from these chick flicks. Is he:

  • Perfect?
  • Handsome?
  • A doctor or financially stable in a good job?

I loved a comment I heard on a movie recently, “Unfortunately for men they are not sleeping with you they are sleeping with a carefully calculated set of ‘vino’ choices. Money over Substance. Looks over Soul. Polish Over Principles”
Let’s look at it. We have been watching chick flicks and fantasy movies since we started watching cartoons. Snow White, Cinderella, Beauty and the beast, Rapunzel, Shrek even!
So, I’m not for a minute telling you you’re an idiot for believing it, what I am saying is just like how guys are shocked when they find out that their brain has been re-wired by porn, ours has been re-wired from a younger age to believe that men should be behaving a particular way just like in the movies. It’s unrealistic and it’s NOT your fault!

Society has been preening us for years into a false sense of pleasure

As young women we do buy-in from the chick flicks and in many cases become ADDICTED to the feeling we get when we watch or read these stories. That’s the same ‘dopamine’ release that happens with porn via our reward circuits.
We have been preened that there is only supposed to be one person in our life to meet and fulfil ALL of our needs and desires. I’m not talking about sexually, I am talking an out other facets of your life in health, spirituality, romance, friendships, business, finances, career, in travel.
Many women never find their ‘Magic Man’ as they live completely within this fantasy expectation.
Now I am saying ‘fantasy expectations’ because until you acknowledge that we have been unconsciously re-wired from such a young age then that is actually what you are living in.
When you are aware of this rewiring your ‘checklist’ will be completely overhauled. You will spend your time educating yourself more then romanticising and will have more fulfilling relationships regardless of whether it lasts a day, a week or years.
Other changes will occur:

  • Your perception and tolerance towards men will change.
  • You won’t feel disgusted that guys watch porn but more curious.
  • You’ll forgive even when your heart is bruised because you understand that he is maybe no longer your ‘Mr Perfect’ and that someone or something else better might be around the corner.
  • You approach relationships completely different with a different perspective.
  • Guys will want to talk to you. They will be drawn to you, as you become a conundrum to them!
  • You don’t belittle them or emasculate them and if you do you acknowledge what you did swiftly.

 Crazy Stupid Romantic Love still exists out there

However, when you no longer have it as an expectation, when it does happen it’s a pleasant surprise and will have a greater impact on you, as now you will be able to actually identify and appreciate it.
For both sexes, when the addictions have been removed and your brain is ‘re-wired’ again, your perspective and everyday life will change as life will now come without a preconceived idea of your destined future or incapable expectations.
Then and only then will the world be your oyster!
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