GET ON THE PHONE AND CALL YOUR MATES NOW!!!
Men bottle things up. Alcohol and drugs are used to mask how they really feel. As males we were taught to be tough and not discuss our problems from a young age from influences at home and at school. If you were a boy at school and you cried you were called a ‘girl’, picked on and bullied.
When my mum died in 1996 when I was 26, I cried all the way home when I drove home on the 2 hour drive. When just out of my home town Cobram, I sized up a pole on a farm and at the drop-of-a-hat I sped up to 180kms hour on impulse and in a split second I was going to kill myself. In a split second I changed my mind as being the eldest sibling I felt a responsibility to look after Renee. I stopped the car, pulled over and had a deep breath, cried and slowly drove the 5kms to home.
When my little sister Renee at the age of 12 attended her first day of high school the day after mum’s funeral, she was teased at school because her mum was dead. She told me this when she got home from school that night. Kids can be mean!
Her first day of high school was the worst day ever. No wonder she hated that high school.
I made her come and live with me in a different town in year 12 so she could pass her exams (which she did easily) as the kids and teachers at her new school treated her really well and with respect.
Renee had a history of mental illness not long after mum died. After a failed attempt in her early 20’s, I was a Presets concert in Brisbane with my best mate and late in the evening dad called me to say that Renee had attempted suicide 1500kms away by overdosing with pills and she was currently in hospital in Victoria. I felt helpless and couldn’t do anything to help.
I explained straight away what was happening to my mate as I had to get it out, decided to stay until the concert finished even though the entire time I had a tear in my eye and really just wanted to leave.
I spoke with Renee not long after and from that date on I did my best to stay in touch with her (she changed her mobile number that much sometimes I couldn’t speak with her for months; she was a recluse and difficult to stay in touch with).
Her frequent stays at Psychiatric Hospitals also worried me but at least I knew that while there she was safe from self-harm. It broke my heart to visit her for the first time in a Psych ward as I still thought of her as my little baby sister and I couldn’t believe how much she had changed from childhood. I was freaked out.
She committed suicide at age 33 in January 2017 in a caravan park in Victoria.
3 months prior to her suicide I had quit my job, moved to Brisbane for time-out, found a job and then a few days after I flew back to Melbourne to basically say goodbye to all may mates and move my gear my dad called my to say Renee was in a coma.
The second I answered that call I knew she was gone.
All I did for 2 weeks until the day of the funeral was drink lots of alcohol daily.
My life was upside down!
I went from starting a new chapter of my life to…homeless!
Lucky for my close friends Jim and Adrianna they out of the love and kindness of their heart they allowed me to over stay my welcome for 9 months in their family home.
Coming from a family where my family doesn’t support me I am lucky to have close friends as they are there for me any time I need them.
After Renee’s passing I took nearly 9 months off and didn’t feel like doing much at all until I decided use my professional Golf skills to start coaching others.
Then I crewed for Tony Robbins and was blessed to have the opportunity to really identify my purpose to change lives through my gifts and skills of NLP (neuro linguistic programming) and my hypnotherapy psychic/medium intuition. These skills was how I transformed my life so I didn’t end up 6 feet under the ground with my mum and sister.
The curious in me always loves to dig deep and ask questions so recently I was in a café and noticed a Psychologist sitting at a table next to me and with 30 years experience he seemed the perfect person to ask “What is the main problem that you focus on with all of your clients?”. He replied “Anxiety”.
- Thinking about the past and future
- Not trusting the flow of life
- Feeling insecure and unsupported or helpless to change your situation
- Focused on negativity and limiting beliefs and values and allowing yourself to drown in fear.
Some symptoms of anxiety are;
- Panic attacks.
Men are more likely to be impulsive than women which leads them to spur of the moment suicide; mainly due to the use of alcohol.
Men don’t share how they really feel with anyone causing them to feel even worse by bottling it in.
When you are feeling down best thing to do is CALL SOMEONE IMMEDIATELY (either a mate or a professional) and tell them the truth on how you really feel.
“THE TRUTH SETS YOU FREE”
By not telling anyone and/or getting any professional help, this increases the risk of depression or anxiety.
Depression is a high risk factor for suicide
1 in 8 men will experience depression
1 in 5 men will experience anxiety
If you suffer from this please guys get some help. Every day in Australia, men account for 6 out of 8 suicides (nearly double the national road toll). Helping men and the road toll would be best served by helping anxiety.
Your mental health changes daily. One day you are feeling 100% positive; the next day feeling 100% negative. That is how volatile we are as humans.
Effectively managing your mental health can give you significant improvements in your quality of life, increase your capacity to support you and your family and your mates, and let you perform at your best.
As Nike say, “Just Do it”
CALL YOUR MATES OR A PROFESSIONAL NOW; THEY ARE THERE TO LISTEN AS OFFER HELP (EVEN THOUGH YOU DON’T THINK THEY WILL).
Hypnotherapist, Time-Line Therapist, Neuro-Linguistic Programming Practitioner, Physic/Medium, Energy Healer and Forensic Healer, Professional Golfer and Golf Coach.
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