Our thoughts control how we act, feel and see the world. What we mostly think about is what owns us- if we constantly concentrate on the negative sides of our lives, that’s exactly what we’ll attract and manifest. The opposite is also true – the more we surround ourselves with positivity, the more of that we’ll find. For many, that’s all they’ve known and getting rid of those baggage means to let go of their identity, hence it’s can be quite confronting for many. For some, they don’t even realise about those emotional baggage that’s been hanging in the closet until someone or something triggers them.
“There’s a luggage limit to every passenger on a flight. The same rules apply to your life. You must eliminate some baggage before you can fly.”
Living a positive and happy life requires us to first let go of the past and any emotional baggage that weigh us down. Many people are afraid of letting go because they believe that it’s a daunting process but it doesn’t have to be that way.
Here are the simple 5 tips to help you let go of your emotional baggage:
- Self-Reflection: Instead of masking these issues with self -indulging activities (eating, shopping, drinking etc.), people or things, taking time out to think about where you are at and whether you are currently happy/fulfilled. We often go through life numbing our pain and suppressing our emotions, which only leads to more pain and issues. Instead, every week, take some time out to reflect (you can do this through journaling) and address issue(s) that are bothering you, whether you’re your health, finance, relationships or career etc. Nothing will change unless you do.
- Honesty is the best policy: Often it’s easier to point your finger at someone or to blame people/things/events as to why you are not happy or why things don’t happen your way. It takes courage to take responsibilities and learn from your mistakes. Be honest with yourself, own up to your mistakes/downfall and learn from it. Remember: You are the common denominator of everything that is going on around you.
- Own your emotions
The more energy you put into suppressing your feelings and emotions, the more you allow them to control you. People often label emotions such as anger, shame, embarrassment, fear, etc. as ‘bad’ or ‘negative’. Just remember that these feelings or emotions are as valid as happiness, joy, love etc. Without feeling sad, you’ll never appreciate moments of happiness. So own your emotions – all the good, bad and the ugly. It’s absolutely OK to be angry or fearful, feel them in your body and then release them.
- Forgive yourself and others: An important part of emptying your emotional baggage is to learn to forgive yourself and others. Remember that your mistakes shape who you are today. Your downfall is what makes you stronger and more resilient. The people that have wronged you in the past teach you the best lessons about love and life. So thank them for that, forgive and let them go. Don’t forget to forgive yourself as well. You’ve done the best you could with what you had known.
- Being present is the way forward
Instead of holding on to the past, it’s important to be in the present moment and appreciate what life has to offer. Learn to appreciate the beautiful things and people around you. Be grateful for all that you have and all that you are. Focus on the positive because you deserve more of that in your life.
Author, Speaker, Transformational Dating & Relationship Coach,
NLP Practitioner and Level 2 Meta Dynamics Consultant