Most people seem to think that if a relationship is ‘right’ that it should be easy. Wrong.

“Relationships take continual effort to keep the passion going.”

Why is it ok for people at the beginning to show the best version of themselves when they meet a new beau but as time passes they become more lazy, more negative and more sloppy about their grooming and appearance?
We start off making an effort to be on the best behavior, care about what we look like, wear our best underwear and are willing to negotiate our time, emotions and experiences for that person.
Then comfortability sets in. We burp, fart, walk around in our sloppy Joe’s, lingerie and nice boxers becomes non-existent and the granny knickers and holy jocks come out along with the tracksuits, and our levels of tolerance decrease while our sarcasm increases. That’s just the effects of routine. We haven’t talked about what happens after kids yet!
So how do we reignite the passion when we have slipped….

#1 Grooming

This covers, hair, face, how you dress and intimate body parts landscaping!
Ooohh I just felt another eye roll. Oh my god, you want me to wax or shave during winter? Since when it is ok to let yourself have a bear grow in your lap? Are you cool with going down there when the forest has come to town? No? Well why should they feel any different??
If your looking for a deterrent to make sure your partner doesn’t come near you JACKPOT but if your reading this article I’m hoping you actually WANT some attention from your other half SO TAKE NOTES.
BENEFIT: Taking care in your appearance will boost YOUR self esteem and trust me, that new found confidence will snowball into every part of your life and wait till you see how your life changes for the better!

#2 Dating

Since when is it ok to stop dating ever?
That’s right, never stop dating your partner. It is imperative to the health, wellbeing and longevity of your current relationship.
Date night SHOULD NOT be the same night every week. Mix it up! Different days, different venues, different events. Try movies, dinner, day dates at a winery, special event venues in your city, go to the zoo or museum, theatre, comedy (highly recommend this one), night picnic on the beach, sporting event (you both like fellas), or even a night away at a hotel (guaranteed to spice it up).
NOTE: For those with kids, you are not a bad parent for leaving them at home while you go out with the person YOU chose to be with for the rest of your life. By putting your relationship first you are teaching them the best life skills for a future successful relationship.

#3 Be Selfless

Take a mental note of things your partner likes. Everything from food, what you wear, how you do your hair, when they comment when you touch, kiss or lick them a certain way, events they spark an interest in on TV, things they want to do, things they mention they like or their fantasies.
NOTE: We humans are not mind readers so ladies remind him of ways he can make you happy, as guys love roadmaps

#4 Special occasions

Nothing is more of a relationship deflator when your birthday, anniversary or holidays come around and it is a non-event. These deserve special experiences no matter how long you have been together.
Go on a day trip to a place neither of you have been to before or learn something new together. By doing something like this you not only get QUALITY time together but also you have just created a new point of connection and conversation. It doesn’t get any better then that!
NOTE: We are not saying go out and splurge on something you can’t afford. One of the best gifts you can give your partner is simply your time!

#5 Kissing

200 times more powerful then morphine which is why it’s the drug of choice for women.
For those who have had a slowdown or full blown stop in their intimacy within their relationship, I recommend you try the 5 minute challenge taken on by so many of our customers recently.
CHALLENGE: For 5 minutes every day for a week, kiss, not peck, your partner passionately and watch how that libido that had taken a vacation is stirred like the underlying giant it is!
melinaMelina Macdonald
Intimacy & Adult Product Lifestyle Educator, Author “Win the Dating Game”, Speaker Dating & Sex, Love & Intimacy Expert, Liquid Crystal and Human Design Practicioner
With a focus message of intimacy, communication, trust and respect, Melina created this business with the goal to enhance relationships and lower the divorce rate for years to come. After becoming single after 11 years of marriage Melina decided she wanted to get her own inner sparkle back. Her journey started into the world of self-discovery and adult products and was mortified at the misinformation and sleaziness of the adult industry. Breaking all the rules in the industry by putting a face to the company Melina is now the leading Intimate Lifestyle Educator in Australia today speaking as a guest speaker at various women’s events.
Combining unique modalities and personal experience makes Melina stand out in her industry.